Many couples might feel that their foreplay is cut short, or that they aren’t getting what they want out of it. This can be solved by changing up your foreplay techniques and strategies to maximize the amount of pleasure or time that you’re getting with your partner, even though you’ve been together for a long time.
If you or your partner are really into sensations, it might be fun to experiment with temperature. Making the room hot and cold, or initiating foreplay near a fireplace and then moving to the cold basement, can increase the body’s sensational stimuli, which leads to more pleasurable sex. If you don’t want to move rooms but still want to feel the hot/cold sensations, try using hot wax or lube on your partner.
Speaking of using hot wax, it might be worth trying toys or other pleasurable items in foreplay so that you can explore all your options for pleasure. If your partner is into BDSM, try handcuffs or a whip. If they are more into sensational pleasure or vibrating stimuli, possibly using a vibrator or cock ring might be inviting for you and your partner.
If you’re looking for more long-term foreplay, start in the beginning of the day and lead up to sex at the end of the night. This can be small things: sending your partner flirty texts, discreetly flashing them in public, or grabbing their arm/butt when you walk by them. This can start the foreplay before your partner even starts thinking about sex, and that can be an exciting surprise for them when it’s not something they’re initially thinking about.
When you are too nervous to start talking about trying different foreplay techniques with your partner, it might be good to play a game. There are many different versions of dice games, card games, and body games that you can play with your partner. These range from “Naughty Dice” or “Naughty Twister” to “Getting Warmer” where you use your hands to make your partner hot before switching roles.
If you want to do something before initiating a different style or technique in foreplay for your partner, you should do a yes/no/maybe list. This can be a great way to gage what your partner might want to try or definitely does not want to try, as well as what they are willing to do for you.
When trying to change up foreplay, it can be hard to start a conversation with your partner. It might be beneficial in the long run to do something new with your partner, especially if you want to make your sex life more interesting. Keep this in mind, and make sure that you’re communicating, and your foreplay can be fresh and exciting for the rest of your relationship!