New Toys for Couples

If the only time you are using your toys are when your partner is away, or when you’re not being satisfied with your sex life, then you’re missing out on an opportunity for fun and an enhanced sex life. There are many toys that you can use to revamp your sexual experiences.

Probably one of the best toys you can use on your female partner is a vibrator that hits both the clitoris and the G-spot. These toys really common, so they are available in many stores, and are great for partners who need something that fits to the body to increase mobility for other actions in bed.

In addition to vibrators, another common (yet often overlooked) sex toy is the cock ring. There are multiple kinds of cock rings, but one that enhances both partners’ sex lives is versatile and able to go from the males cock to a strap-on. If they are vibrating it add an extra flare to the already fun toy, and can encourage pleasure for both partners.

If you’re into BDSM or impact play, possibly a crop is the best way to go for you. Usable on any gender, the crop can make your sex life interesting through safe and playful dominance. Use it to hit the fleshy parts of your partner, and remember to always use a safe word.

If you’re looking for constant penetration throughout the day, as a way of teasing your partner for what’s to come, try out a pair of underwear that you can insert a dildo into- any dildo of your choice! This can be fun for partners who are into extreme foreplay, and who want to have something to encourage sexy messages or glances to their partner while in public.

On that same note, you can also purchase underwear that allows you to insert a remote controlled vibrator, so that the male  partner can control the length and power of the vibrating sensation while sitting across from you at a restaurant. Vibrating panties are a great way to get your partner excited about what will happen after dinner!

If you’re looking for something to heighten sensations, a blindfold might be the best way to go. Be sure to use the correct materials for sensation play, such as edible and safe hot waxes, lubes, massaging oil, etc.

If you are into the sex you are having as a couple now, but are feeling uncomfortable when giving oral sex kneeling on the floor, or when being penetrated behind, you have options; try investing in a wedge pillow that gives you or your partner a bit of elevation or padding for a better position.

Overall, if you want to find something that works for you or your partner’s experience, try to go with them to a local store or browse online together. This way, you are discussing the dynamics of the sexual relationship once the toy is purchased, as well as coming up with new and exciting ways to make your sex life as interesting as it can be!

How to Safely Choke your Partner During Sex

Breath play can be a new and exciting factor in any couple’s sex life, and can be used on both male and female partners. If you’re looking for how to initiate the conversation around breath play with a partner, how to encourage them to choke you correctly, or how to choke your partner correctly, you’re in the right place.

The best thing to do when starting breath play is to make sure that you and your partner both consent. While it might be common sense to some couples, it’s also important to state here that throughout this process you are communicating, and encouraging your partner to do the same. Breath play can be dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing, or if you do it wrong. That being said, if you don’t notice anything is going wrong, you might injure your partner, so you need to establish a safe word as well as a safe signal, so that you know you aren’t hurting your partner.

Make sure that you start softly, and are not pushing down on the front of the partner’s throat. If you’re using the front part of the neck to choke, you can cause coughing and damage their airway, which is not at all sexy and might require a trip to the hospital. When in doubt, ask your partner what feels good to them and allow them to guide your hand into the position that feels best for them.

Once you have the positioning of the hand down, apply slight pressure to the neck of your partner and ensure that they are comfortable. Do not put your whole body weight into the choking. The throat is not made to hold body weight, and you could seriously injure or even kill your partner if you are putting too much pressure on their airway. After you and your significant other decide on the correct amount of pressure, it’s time to change things up.

To make the choking more enjoyable, the person doing the choking can do several things to make it so that the partner is getting the most out of the interaction. A great thing to start with is turning your partner’s head to the side while choking and kissing the back of their neck, coming from the side opposite your choking hand. This can add a heat sensation to the back of the throat, and if your partner loves neck kissing it can be a huge turn on!

If you want to do a little bit more than just kissing, eye contact is one of the best ways to make your partner excited about choking during sex. Make deep and sexy eye contact without being creepy, and hold your partners gaze while you choke them. This intimacy can bring your sex life to the next level, and can be a huge bonus to choking.

Choking your partner can be a really easy way to create trust with each other through intimacy, as well as helping you or your partner to find different forms of pleasure to incorporate into your sex life.

Foreplay Ideas for Long Term Couples

Many couples might feel that their foreplay is cut short, or that they aren’t getting what they want out of it. This can be solved by changing up your foreplay techniques and strategies to maximize the amount of pleasure or time that you’re getting with your partner, even though you’ve been together for a long time.

If you or your partner are really into sensations, it might be fun to experiment with temperature. Making the room hot and cold, or initiating foreplay near a fireplace and then moving to the cold basement, can increase the body’s sensational stimuli, which leads to more pleasurable sex. If you don’t want to move rooms but still want to feel the hot/cold sensations, try using hot wax or lube on your partner.

Speaking of using hot wax, it might be worth trying toys or other pleasurable items in foreplay so that you can explore all your options for pleasure. If your partner is into BDSM, try handcuffs or a whip. If they are more into sensational pleasure or vibrating stimuli, possibly using a vibrator or cock ring might be inviting for you and your partner.

If you’re looking for more long-term foreplay, start in the beginning of the day and lead up to sex at the end of the night. This can be small things: sending your partner flirty texts, discreetly flashing them in public, or grabbing their arm/butt when you walk by them. This can start the foreplay before your partner even starts thinking about sex, and that can be an exciting surprise for them when it’s not something they’re initially thinking about.

When you are too nervous to start talking about trying different foreplay techniques with your partner, it might be good to play a game. There are many different versions of dice games, card games, and body games that you can play with your partner. These range from “Naughty Dice” or “Naughty Twister” to “Getting Warmer” where you use your hands to make your partner hot before switching roles.

If you want to do something before initiating a different style or technique in foreplay for your partner, you should do a yes/no/maybe list. This can be a great way to gage what your partner might want to try or definitely does not want to try, as well as what they are willing to do for you.

When trying to change up foreplay, it can be hard to start a conversation with your partner. It might be beneficial in the long run to do something new with your partner, especially if you want to make your sex life more interesting. Keep this in mind, and make sure that you’re communicating, and your foreplay can be fresh and exciting for the rest of your relationship!